21 Things I Learned My 21st Year

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21 was an interesting year for me. Not because I was of legal age, but because of some other things that happened in my life. I learned a lot this year, a whole lot. That’s what led me to write this post for my 22nd birthday, not to try to teach someone anything but to have a place where I can come back for a reminder.

And thank you to all the lovely people who have wished me happy birthday this week and today. I am so incredibly blessed to have everyone in my life whether it’s my blog friends or people I know in person.

Anyways let’s begin…

1. You can’t make everyone happy. You can try as hard as you want, but eventually you have to do what’s best for you.

2. Being 21 is expensive. Drinks are expensive. Trips to Vegas are expensive. Save yo cash money $$$.

3. You need girlfriends, not a lot just a handful. Quality, loyal, honest girlfriends who you can go to at your lowest low, but the next moment double over in stomach aching laughter with.

4. You can’t buy cheap high heels. Go to Dillards. Pay $80 for a pair of high heels. Your feet will love you.

5. You don’t need toxic people in your life. People who gossip about you and aren’t trustworthy have no place in your life. Bye.

6. 4 years flies by fast. Don’t wish your life away because like Ferris Bueller says, “If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”

7. I truly met my best friends through my sorority. You’ll reaffirm this when you are sitting in your bathroom crying because you don’t want your best friends to graduate and leave.

8. It’s okay to eat Taco Bell at 2am and listen to Christmas music, just not every night.

9. Take care of your body and make it a priority. Fuel your body with real food and spend some time at the gym.

10. Sleep over at your best friends house. Eat brunch together. Watch movies together. Someday you’ll miss this.

11. But allow yourself some alone time. It’s more rejuvenating and refreshing than you realize.

12. Not everyone has the same “life plan” as you and there’s nothing wrong with that. Just because you’re not ready to get married and don’t plan on staying in your hometown doesn’t mean it’s wrong to think that way.

13. If you want to make something happen in your life, it’s up to you to take action and make it happen.

14. I thought I’d have my life figured out by the time I turned 22, but I don’t and that’s okay.

15. Stop saying “I’m sorry” for things you don’t need to apologize for.

16. Say what you need to say. Be honest about what you’re feeling whether it’s good or bad. It could save you and someone else a lot of heartache.

17. It’s not the material things that matter. You will find that the people you surround yourself with can bring you more joy than something store bought ever can.

18. Don’t forget about your parents. They brought you into this world, so let them be a part of your life.

19. Don’t take life so seriously. Let your hair down and let it all go.

20. You aren’t like anyone else. Appreciate what makes you unique and chase what you are passionate about, not what someone else says you should.

21. God is my rock and my refuge. Even when it felt like He wasn’t listening to me, he was. I just had to wait for his own timing.

“The Lord is my shepherd; I have all that I need…He renews my strength. He guides me along right paths, bringing honor to his name. Even when I walk through the darkest valley, I will not be afraid for you are close beside me.” Psalm 23: 1,3-4

 

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I’m Turning 22 And It’s Okay

Friday, June 27, marks the day when I will no longer be 21. I’ll be turning the big double deuce. This time last year I was anxiously awaiting my birthday so I could be of legal age to consume alcohol and be old enough to get into bars. Now the fun is over and the next age I have to look forward to is 25 when I can legally rent a car. I’ll probably have a car rental birthday party so be on the look out for that in 3 years.

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But to be honest turning 22 makes sense with the point I’ve reached in my life. Basically I’m right on the edge of becoming an actual adult. It’s scary as heck, but it’s something I’m more excited than scared about. If you would have asked me this time last year if I was ready to be done with college and kicked out into the real world I would have said no. I wasn’t ready then, but I feel like I’m more okay with the idea now. College isn’t forever. We all have to grow up at some point.

After December I have no idea what I’ll be doing with my life. So far it’s a white blank page and it doesn’t scare me. It doesn’t worry me. It excites me because it’s full of new possibilities. It’s full of the unknown. And I can place my hope and trust in someone who does have a plan for my future. Thank you God for that promise in Jeremiah 29:11.

I have one more semester left of undergrad which will be student teaching (full time job with no pay). Which is awesome.

I’ll now be an alumna member of Zeta Tau Alpha meaning no more Monday night meetings or weekends filled with philanthropy events or late school nights working on the Homecoming float.

Most of my close girlfriends graduated this May and are either off starting new jobs or will be starting graduate school in the fall. This translates into pretty boring weekends where I won’t be going out as much as I did this past year. I’ll probably go out like 2 times, it won’t even be comparable.

I’ll be having lots of big decisions to be making like:

Grad school: Yes? No? For education? For nutrition? For mass media? Where at?

Post-Graduation: Teaching job? Where at?

Other decisions will fall into my hands that I can’t think of right now nor can I expect.

So 22 is the year of possibility. The year of change. The year of the unknown. The year of the white blank page and I’m completely okay with that.

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I’ll be posting a few more times this week, but be on the look out for my birthday Friday post on 21 things I learned my 21st year. Have a great Monday everyone!

Have you faced a year of uncertainty? Do you look forward to getting older?

Thinking Out Loud #5

For today’s blog post I’m linking up with Running With Spoons for Thinking Out Loud!

Here we goooo!

1. I miss my friends, but it’s so nice when I get to see them. One of my best friends came to town, so I met her for lunch on Wednesday. Sadly, lunch went by too quickly and she had to get back home. Seeing her and catching up completely made my day. It also made me realize how much I miss my friends. I miss seeing them every day and spending my weekends with them.

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2. Sometimes I forget what it feels like to wear makeup, especially during the summer. Summer is time for mascara free eyes and wearing my hair in weird ways with a headband. I look kinda creepy in this photo.

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3. Not all smoothies I attempt to make work out. I had this grand idea to make a smoothie with instant coffee, peanut butter, a banana, some spinach, and almond milk. I don’t know where I went wrong in my proportions, but I did. So yesterday was a smoothie fail. And evidently I drank it anyways. I was hungry.

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4. This article. Read it: 28 things no 20 something year old wants to hear

As an unmarried 21 year old who isn’t married and has no children, I get asked a lot of these questions. Let me put a few of my favorites from that list:

Are you the last of your friends who is still single? From home I’m literally 1 of 2 people left who isn’t married.

When are you going to get married? Ummm don’t I need to get engaged first? Once that happens then you can ask me.

Oh, you’re single?  I know someone of the opposite gender who is also single.  I can set you up. No matter if I’m single or not people like to make suggestions. No I’m not interested.

 5. Be present now. I’ll be honest. My mind is consumed with what I’m going to be doing in the future after December. And the funny thing is, I haven’t even started student teaching yet. So I have to remind myself that I have a ways to go before I can really thing about post-graduation things. A lot can happen in half a year. So I need to focus more on not thinking about the past or future, for it does no good. It’s a waste of brain power. And this blonde needs to preserve all the brain power possible. I need to enjoy where I am now. I need to focus on the people I’m surrounded by now. I know God has a plan for me and that will lead me in the right direction when the time comes.

6. I love breakfast. It’s as simple as that. On the left is oatmeal with peanut butter, cinnamon, strawberries, and blueberries. On the right is protein pancakes from this morning. One of them may or may not have a few chocolate chips inside. I’m a wild one. I know.

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7. You know the saying “Dance like no one is watching.” You have to watch this video of this little girl at her dance recital. She is gettin’ it. She doesn’t care what anyone else thinks. It’s hilarious.

8. You can’t beat a New Mexico sunset. I caught this on my bike ride down the road last night.

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On the agenda for the rest of the day is see what kind of work my Dad has for me to do. Later this afternoon I’ll go visit the chiropractor and then off to Crossfit!

Do you wear makeup everyday? What is one question you get consistently asked?